tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10628759.post113693550133665142..comments2023-10-24T10:46:23.233-05:00Comments on Romantic Ramblings: Good questionDuke_of_Earlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08358279187766938462noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10628759.post-1137021012248595082006-01-11T17:10:00.000-06:002006-01-11T17:10:00.000-06:00Wonderful, thoughtful comments from all of you. T...Wonderful, thoughtful comments from all of you. Thanks!<BR/><BR/>BWH, your comment sent me to the dictionary to get a better sense of the true meaning of "ulterior." Here's what I found: <I>Lying beyond what is evident, revealed, or avowed, especially being concealed intentionally so as to deceive: an ulterior motive.</I><BR/><BR/>Wow. VERY negative. I was thinking more along the lines of "alternate" or "secondary" motive. "Intentional deception" is not good in anybody's book. Perhaps I should have asked the question with a different (and not so negative)adjective.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Thanks again, all!<BR/><BR/>JohnDuke_of_Earlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08358279187766938462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10628759.post-1137020175112249512006-01-11T16:56:00.000-06:002006-01-11T16:56:00.000-06:00The Key word here is ulterior.The connotation of t...The Key word here is ulterior.<BR/><BR/>The connotation of that word is something evil or unproductive. <BR/><BR/>In my opinion and in scripture the ends do not justify the means. All actions and motivations can be judged. <BR/><BR/>Go read your G.B. Shaw. He did a few stories about this.bigwhitehathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05378526701377764387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10628759.post-1137007647022205202006-01-11T13:27:00.000-06:002006-01-11T13:27:00.000-06:00I ditto Hamel's comment. But I do have to say tha...I ditto Hamel's comment. But I do have to say that there are many friends here in Cape Town who would do anything for each other without an ulterior motive and we simply call them random acts of kindness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10628759.post-1137005228968127352006-01-11T12:47:00.000-06:002006-01-11T12:47:00.000-06:00This is a question I'll have to cheat on and pose ...This is a question I'll have to cheat on and pose two answers.<BR/><BR/>1) Yes, it lessens what we do if we do something with an ulterior motive in mind, regardless of whether our selfishness is first and foremost the reason for the action, or just a hope or wish. And of course the greater the ulterior motive, the more the act is lessened, or cheapened. Yes, it is a slipperly slope.<BR/><BR/>2) However, it's human nature to want to do that which is self-serving. So we start talking about terms such as enlightenment and saintly when one can do for others with absolutely no hope of getting something for oneself. It does happen, but not often enough.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10628759.post-1136965824854734702006-01-11T01:50:00.000-06:002006-01-11T01:50:00.000-06:00I think you are right.. Motives matter. I'll use t...I think you are right.. Motives matter. <BR/>I'll use this as an example although its not a good one or something I should probably use as an example.. <BR/><BR/>Anytime my husband does something for me.. My first thought is "Oh goodness what does he want now" or "what did he break this time"<BR/><BR/>Reason being. His motives. He only does something good or nice when he has either done something wrong or wants/expects something in return.. Motives certainly matter..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com