A few posts ago, Jennifer commented (about my refusal to accept rejection as personal), “I think your perspective here is a brilliant one, and you are quite lucky to own it. What seems a cruel world really is as you've laid it out here. It's NOT personal. But dang if it isn't hard to remember that sometimes. Keep the faith, man. Your attitude is golden.”
Jennifer is one of my favorite daily reads in the blogosphere. She tends toward introspection (as I sometimes do), but her take on events in her life is described in a matter-of-fact and brutally honest form.
Last June I wrote a post on “Attitude” (which is why I put “Reprise” in today’s title). And Jennifer commented on THAT one, too. In it I made the point that we each can choose our own attitude, and I just prefer to be positive about most things.
People ask if my glass is half full or half empty. I tell them, “Neither. My glass is always at LEAST ¾ full.”
“Oh, but you’re just being a Pollyanna!” “Yeah! A REALIST would admit that life often sucks, and you gotta take the bad with the good.”
I hear those comments. And I reply, “Bullshit.”
(Preachy post warning!)
People who feel that way often end up with a “victim” mentality. Nothing that happens to them is their fault, they have no control over the random events that life throws at them, and they should be pitied and helped.
Well, okay, sometimes life DOES throw random events at us and we can’t control all aspects of them. My philosophy is, don’t fret over what you can’t control. But control what you CAN. And one of the things you CAN control is your attitude towards, and your reaction to, those events.
You can lament and bitch and moan and complain about how bad life is and what a victim you are. OR, you can say, “Well, THAT sucked. I hope I can avoid anything like THAT in the future.” And then you can focus on ways to avoid that in the future!
People say, “Those people look down on me and treat me like I’m nothing.” Who are “THOSE PEOPLE?” Do they matter? To Whom? Why do they matter to you? People are going to think what they think, and you can’t change them. Just convince yourself that they’re WRONG, and what they think doesn’t change the FACT that you’re not so bad! To HELL with “those people!”
If you don’t like the way things are under the circumstances, climb OUT from under those circumstances and change some of them!
End of preaching. For now.
Oh... Well, on further thought... I WILL admit that there is ONE thing that truly victimizes us. And that we have NO control over.
And that ONE thing is the CONSPIRACY I keep writing about!
But don’t bemoan it. Keep fighting against it. It’s the only chance we have!