Wednesday, May 11, 2005


Okay, now that I’ve got your attention…

I’ve been taking a lot of heat (no pun intended) lately from some of my regular readers. They have the nerve to dispute my claim that this blog contains, among lots of other things, sex.

They just can’t see it. But it’s there.

You want an example? I’ll give you an example. How many of my posts made reference to the fact that my daughter was pregnant? A LOT of them, right? Well, how do you think she got that way, artificial insemination?

Hey, it’s OK; she’s married. In fact, she’s been married 5 years as of earlier this week. (Happy anniversary, Christina!)

Anyway, I think I’ve been doing a bang-up job (no pun intended) on keeping this a family blog and yet having enough sexual innuendo and references to put it just a bit on the spicy side.

Let me turn serious for a moment and ask a question. (Yes, I CAN be serious. And thanks for asking.)

What is the sexiest thing a man can do to a woman?

Yes, I think I know the answer. I’ll tell you what I think, and you judge. As a writer of romance novels, I’d better get this right.

The sexiest thing a man can do to a woman is to love her totally and respect her.

Did you watch the movie “Sleepless in Seattle?” What was it about Tom Hanks’ character that turned on women all across the country? It was the fact that he had been completely in love with and devoted to his wife, the mother of his son.

That’s what they all heard, loud and clear on the radio show.

I know—Meg Ryan’s character was the “right” one, for a lot of reasons, so the story focused on her and the “magic” between the two of them. But still, she and the other women saw in him a person who loved and was devoted to one woman. That was the real turn-on.

That has been the “secret” of my wonderful marriage of almost 37 years. It’s not MY doing. I was swept away by Carol from the night we met. I would do anything for her, and she knows it. What’s the result? She’ll do anything for me!

No, we don’t always agree, but we respect each other and never belittle. We each try to be sensitive to what the other wants.

Now THAT’S sexy!

And didn’t I recently have a couple of posts about how wonderful my wife is?

The defense rests.


Karyn Lyndon said...

What is the sexiest thing a man can do to a woman? Nope...I wouldn't touch this one with a...well...any size pole. What's the deal, Duke? One day we're talking about grandchildren and lawsuits and the next you've turned your blog into a Cosmopolitan (You'll stoop to any level to increase your readership, won't you? Lantz would be very proud!)

Okay, I will say this, but asked. I think the sexiest thing a man can do is communicate on all levels...from really listening to what I have to say and telling me how he really feels--to the most profound form of communication...the one that doesn't involve words at all (well, okay, maybe some sounds and a few choice phrases if you're into that.)

Brenda said...

Oh my. Then do NOT go to my blog today!

Anonymous said...

I agree with you Duke - I think if I could find a man who would be truly devoted to me, love me totally and who would do anything for me as I would for him, I would be the happiest woman alive.

I have a friend who has a marriage like that. Her and her husband have been married for 16 years, know each other for 23 years and are still hopelessly head over heels in love with each today, simply because they are devoted 110% to each other, to loving each other and making each other happy.