After re-reading yesterday’s post and comments, along with a couple of emails, I think I may have given a more negative outlook on the possibility of “love at first sight” than I intended.
I am, with regards to basic beliefs and philosophy, a romantic. Thus I don’t discount the possibility of love at first sight. In fact, I believe there are cases in which two souls have sensed the presence of magic before they’ve met (on the basis of a description from someone else, for example).
Karyn’s example of meeting her husband and Hamel’s, “You can tell a person's personality from their appearance and mannerisms and fall in love with them,” are excellent points. (See yesterday’s comments.) (Yes, believe it or not, Karyn actually made a good point. Must be a blue moon.)
I believe that you can indeed watch a person enter a room and intuit a lot about him(/her) from movements, dress, and grooming (physical aspects). The “magic” I mentioned is more the “connection” between the souls that Michelle (the African goddess) spoke of.
I wasn’t trying to argue against “love at first sight.” I just intended to relate that in my experience it took more than a glance. Mine was “love at first meeting.” That meeting encompassed getting to know the person inside that great-looking exterior. I fell in love with the whole package.
And, of course, we’re still getting to know one another after decades. And the love just keeps on growing!
That’s probably why my glass is always at least ¾ full. I'm a romantic optimist—what can I say?
(Oh. This just occurred to me—speaking of souls that connect. A definition of “connect” might be, “Descriptive of people who do not like the cervical region.”)